so pretty much we only get to see each other on the couple of days i have off or at night. An emotional letter by one such wife, who felt her husband failed her. What does he do that makes you feel insignificant? I feel he should and that is not my duty to bring it up. Im not trying to compete for attention, but it seems like hes more interested in his daughter than me., It doesnt help that were having problems, which just makes things worse because when you argue, the first thing out of my mouth is always, why dont you spend time with your own kid instead? And every single time, he tells me that she needs him too because she has no one else right now.. We cant get married because she didntno ring..she didnt get oneno friends she doesnt have anyno guests..she doesnt like guests. That couldn't be further from the truth. He didn't invite me to come with him to either one. My boyfriend 27 and I 26 have been together for 3 years. I have been with my husband for eight years, but he isnt that loving to me. Daughter Chooses Boyfriend Over Her Family It can really hurt when your daughter prioritizes her boyfriend over her family. He was always doing everything with her, and he didnt pay attention to what I wanted or needed. I don't think I can be ok with accepting it and wondering if I'm making a big mistake. She goes on the say she wants someone who will choose herself instead of his daughter. Well Im afraid I can only provide a biased opinion having experiences of dating websites, when I felt I have been given the cold shoulder in meeting for special occasions close friends or families. Share your story below. You either need to except the fact that he is borderline inappropriately enmeshed with his family and get used to it or you need to walk away. NmM5ZjBhNTI5NjdiZTRjOWRmNzRmMDVhNzk3YzYzNGE1ZmZhMjEzZjdlMTBl I knew I got lucky when I met him on Tinder that summer (yes, good things can come off the app!). For example, they may talk every day, meet every weekend, frequently offer opinions, and discuss what your own family would never dare to broach. They text and call all day ..multiple times a day. Your access to this site was blocked by Wordfence, a security provider, who protects sites from malicious activity. YTg0NzE5NmZmZWUyNzMyNmM3OGI3OGQ0NmU5OGZhYjVhYzkwYjlmY2Y5OGE0 I was raised to make my own decisions and if they were bad, then suffer the consequences. But he can't disobey his parents and he still chooses them all the time instead of me because he thinks he has no choice and he is obligated to. If he loves you enough he would include you and take you with him. This post is for women whose boyfriend chooses his mother over them. What Girls & Guys Said. OTgzNTVlZjFhNTE4OGMwNjExNjYzNGEyZDYxNDM1Mzc3ZGM4OTRlMjljMzY0 You need to build your own family with a guy, not his dad selecting names for kids and having longer daily commute just to see his family. I asked him a couple of days ago what he was doing for Christmas. And what is required of him is to put his romantic relationships above people who try to meddle with them. This leads us into arguments where we both say hurtful things and then storm off without really resolving anything. First of all, you cant make your boyfriend do what he doesnt want to do. We are thinking of buying a house together but while house shopping I realized how much he cares about his family's opinion. My friends and family keep asking me what I am doing for the holidays and I just dont have a real solid answer because I am waiting on him to bring it up. You cant do anything about a guy so closed-minded and exploitable. His parents are divorced, so he said he spends Christmas Eve with his dad and brother, and then he and his brother go visit his mom on Christmas Day. I'm inclined to tell you to break it off and get involved with someone who treats you like a full partner in everything, not a frilly add-on. Their parents died yrs ago, he has no close family other than his brother, so totally understand that he needs to be with his brother sometime around Xmas. An ultimatum should be the very last thing you give to solve a relationship crisis. I'm in pieces trying to figure this out. ZDhhNjA5MzlkMzBiMTdmNGI3MTExNTk3ZmMyNGE2MmNkNGRjYjY2NTQwYWFk My husband doesnt spend money on me is that ok? But don't blame the pooch. This might be the last with her. Why Does Your Husband Choose Family Over You In Your Relationship? I am the boyfriend in this scenario. Everyone makes mistakes, including me and you. he has been divorced for 4 years and has 3 children aged 17,20 and 22. Not because she loves you. NTU0NDYzMWY3YzZmMDYzOTQyZDNjMjE3NGMzNTQzNmI0ODY4OGE4ZTBjM2Nh I kept asking now she hates me. I knew a Guy who had about five close friends and drinking buddies. I believe it is OK, because he needs some time to catch up with his family. Welcome to r/relationship_advice. I am still struggling to understand why he chose his daughter over me. am i right for feeling this way? Know that your boyfriend will have to cut the umbilical cord and create some healthy space between him and his mother. ZjhlODgxMjY4OTg3YWVhY2NiM2RhNDYwZWQ1ODJhNTNkMDU1YTA4ODU5YmIy You should either find a compromise or leave. Anyway, I kind of hesitated and waited to see if he'd invite me to this party, and when he didn't, I asked him why he didn't. She makes his breakfast and lunch everyday and sometimes dinner. Where we work same city as mom. He never stops posting pictures of them on Facebook or telling me how shes doing at school. Don't make an issue out of it. And if you wish to discuss it with us, sign up for coaching on this page. Despite committing to you and telling you he loves you, the guy is showing you that youre not his number one person and that things will stay that way for as long as his mother is around. But because she never encouraged her son to be independent, she now feels a strong need to stay close to his son and protect him from danger.. Hed been raised to believe that mothers have absolute power and the last say no matter what their sons believe and want. YmM0Mjk3NjQzNDQ3YjhlMmJiZjVhN2YyMzdmMDhkYWJiYjM4MzcyMDljNDM4 His family is set on a location close to where they currently live, even if it's an older house and far from where we both work. Hes ditching them to go to a last minute party. MGNjYjFjYWMyODk0ZWZhMTc1NTEyODk4Y2YwYzViYmNkM2VlNDA5ZmJkNDE1 Forcing time together or forbidding him to go in order to try to fix your relationship when he clearly values family above all else will not help your relationship at all. It'snot a good future you two are going to have. Where we liveclose to mom. ZGM5ODE2ZDlmMmYwM2Q2NzU0NGNkZTE1NWIxNjQyZjhkYmZkNTAxODQxN2Rh OTQ4N2U0NGQ0ZTQyMDJiNDgzMTRjYTYyNDUyNzQ3NDQxODU1MTFhZjk2MTY5 I feel very put off by this, as New Years Eve feels like a couples kind of holiday. Please make sure you read our rules here. This article was originally published at PopSugar. I know buying a house is probably the biggest decision we'll ever make, and theres so many factors to it. In the end, I cant change who he chose, so instead of wasting my time and energy, I am focusing on myself because at least then no one will have to choose between their child and me.In this case, it seems clear that they are prioritizing their family obligations over whatever feelings might exist for themselves.. Thats the only way hell regain some independence and demonstrate that he respects you and prioritizes you. Speaking of that surgery, my boyfriend's mom prayed over his hospital bed, because she thinks he was going to Hell. Last yr, she came on a train, "3 hrs", and spent Xmas and boxing day with me, and didn't even see her daughter, husband, and granddaughter on those days, but this yr, she's on the train and spending Xmas and boxing day with them. I am also the boyfriend in this situation. My boyfriends daughter is always around, and its like she never leaves. My boyfriend doesnt show me any love anymore. HELP! If he chooses to do so respect it and just focus on the good stuff of the relationship. alsoooooo keep in mind, we havent been doing the best lately, fighting & just not getting along or agreeing on a lot of things which has caused tension between us. I love my boyfriend vry much . I won't even get into how I'm called controlling for voicing my opinion. Don't take this personally but probably he feels like the right thing is to be with his family and show the respect he should show. Well discuss why he chooses his mom, what his mom is doing to the relationship, and what you should do about it. Cookie Notice Thats why he lets his mother do what she wants and allows her to get inside his head and affect his relationship. And she went away last year and I just had to deal with it. They came as a package just like your DP and his children. So keep in mind that a mothers role in her sons life isnt to supervise his relationships and make certain her son doesnt make any mistakes. ODU4NjRjNGIzZTFiMDY2Yjg2Yzk1NTk4MWJjN2E1YzcwZTg3Mjk2MmQzOTlk It's the small things too, like once he's mentioned that his dad's already set on names for our kids. Njk4MGFjZTRhMzJlYzkwNzVkNDAxNjU5M2IyMTNlYzY5NjVjYjFhMmZjNzE5 i did, and I don't regret it. ITS ALL ABOUT MOM. Photo: getty. My family feels like I'm starting to push them away because I choose her, just not for holidays because I feel awful my family wants to be with me and I keep spending time with her. Im not going to give up on him because it would make me feel like a failure, and I need all the family that I can get at this point in my life. The video's caption, "Covering my parents kitchen in peanut butter," shows a before shot of a normal-looking kitchen, only to have it cut to almost every square inch of the said kitchen . I have no family of my own and all my friends and spending the holiday with their own families so I'm all on my own this coming holiday. MTNiYjJlNzQwM2YwNjVmOWI0OTI5NDRjYmYxZTc4ZjYyZWQ5ZDY4MjMzMGVl Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! You need to set boundries. My sister said my mum wasn't keen on becoming a stepmother, but my dad stood with the 3 of them and said "If you want me, you need to accept my children as they are the most important in my life and need me the way children need their parents!" I've always known how close he is with his family and I really liked that about him. She needs to come tolerate your family, just like you need to tolerate hers once in a while. ZmMzZDYxY2RlMDllMWYyNmQ3N2MxNWM3NjVjYWU1ZmNlYzkwYTNmNDc3Yjc4 He is wrong if his family forced him to move over relationship with you or just because he doesn't feel interest in you. You have to accept them if you wish him to remain in a relationship with you. Your boyfriend is basically letting his mother control him and making him seem incapable of maintaining his relationship The moment they turn into demands, ultimatums, and tantrums, they go too far and need some boundaries. ZmQ3ZTYzN2ZjNjIyNmZiYTc2NzU1Y2Y4MWYwYzNiYWNmZWY2YjQ1YjAxMDA3 Yesterday, I asked him if he would want to spend New Years Eve together if I planned a get together at my house (I live alone) for a few friends and him. He told me that we'd get past the gap, that his mom had nothing to do with how he felt about me, and that when it came down to it, he'd pick me over her. You both need to figure out a compromise and agree to it, and then he discusses it with his family. & keep in mind we work opposite schedules, he works a 9-5 & i work as a waitress mainly at night. He has never spend christmas with me. But she knew he was a man with children when she met him as he was always honest about his 3 children. Try to ask him about it. He deserves so much more than what happened, yet here we are. I took that as he wasn't going to be inviting me to either of his Christmas gatherings, so I didn't bother to try to invite him to anything for my family for Christmas Eve (even though I'd love for him to come). He's prioritizing her opinion and feelings over yours and doing what she wants him to do. I'm so lonely and I feel so abandoned. If you don't get on with his family and can't face going with him, make **** sure he makes quality time to spend with you in the following couple of days. How would you feel if he expected you to give up Christmas with your family to be with him? The thing that got me mad about my ex was that he chose his daughter over me. & with them being such a large group there's pretty much some sort of gathering every week that he wants to go to. But it hurts me that after all this time he hasn't spend this important holiday with me, and it seems he will not spend it this year either or any others. OGMxYThkM2NmYzJmNTNkYzYzZjllMjUxYmJmMjkzYjc2ZTBjNjg0MDMzZTU2 YTIxMmU3YWEwODk5YWQ2YTc3NjAxODk2ZDllZjRmNDA2YTFjMDQ4MjYyNjM3 We always spend tym together talking n lovin Boyfriend spends too much time with his family. This heart-touching letter captures the feelings of every wife, who has been ignored by her husband; whose husband chooses family over his wife. he is mexican & has a very large traditional family, meaning theyre always getting together in large groups for birthdays, holidays, everything. I feel like she is controlling what I do. MTdkZGFhMzY0ZGQ3ZDgzMzk1OWNkMWJiNTI4MGYzMDFjNTM2OTUxM2Y5ZmE5 But that doesnt mean they should be allowed to direct our romantic lives. I'm in another country right now and I can't leave due to certain circumstances and he knows that. Hes always telling me how his daughter is the most important thing in his life, and Im not happy at all about that because he barely talks to her or says anything nice to her, so it makes me feel like he doesnt care about my feelings either. Im only reaching out because, in the end, we are still family. When youre prepared to open up to him about it, tell him youre not trying to cause problems but that you want to talk about something very, very important to you. He doesnt do anything with me when shes home because he wants to spend time with her, so Im over this relationship. So I am confused as to whats the hold up. Unfortunately an ultimatum is the only option in a position like this imo. Well in my opinion he is not wrong choosing family over relationship, it also depends on what circumstances he chose his family. It drives me crazy because Im not getting the time I need from him. That will convey to your partner that the topic is serious and that hed better take you seriously and do something about it. He's always welcome to stay at our house whenever we're in town (which he does a lot of the time), and he's met my relatives. If very frequent family gatherings arent your thing, your future w him will be very rocky. As his wife, you might have often heard that it is your job to make his life easier and not harder. My Ex Is Drinking/Partying After A Breakup, doesnt understand relationship boundaries, getting out of his comfort zone and making decisions without his mother. It's reality, no one ever loves every person in each partner's family. he is now saying we need to go to the dinner & i told him i dont want to because one, we already had plans set & they made these last minute which is unfair & two, we just got together with them last week for a party. I am still struggling to understand why he chose his daughter over me. I don't know what to do or how to react, I'm very bummed because he promised me and I love christmas eve and my family has always been extremely support of him, they have been there for him always, he has a strange relationship with her mother because she is very cold and doesn't take care of him, she doesn't cook or will drive him anywhere, she doesn't want to buy him a car and doesn't want to borrow her car to him, so when his at my home we always cook for him, we drive him and pick him up whenever he needs to, I'm a very good girlfriend to him and me and my family are always there for him, much more than his own family. Thanksgiving is next week. He said it was just kind of a thing he did every year. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. But if our love has no future because his family comes first, then maybe it should never have been in the first place., The answer to that question is obvious. "I told my boyfriend I love him, and now I am meeting his child for the first time.". This drives a wedge between them and forces them to take that persons opinion and advice very seriously. My Boyfriend Had To Choose Between His Mom And Me. And hurt, hed rather not get. You make everything more clear and easier to understand. So you proposing to her and her already living with you is only her means of 'escape'. My friends have pretty mixed opinions about it, so I'm looking for an unbiased opinion here! Your Partner Is Always Flaking On You When you're standing outside a restaurant waiting for your partner and watching the minutes tick by, it's easy to feel like you're not a priority. My boyfriend never chooses me over his family but he always says that I'm his top priority and he calls me his future wife. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. what should i do? My boyfriend eventually talked me off the ledge. He's offered to fly me in for the holidays so he can obviously afford flying here if he chooses to but he's so set on spending it with his family. Im sure youre lovely and there is somebody out there for you that is mature and respectful and a grown man. Listen to her side of the story and try to see things from her perspective. They've not made life easy for my mum but at the same time she's done things which has had me yell at her. So anyways to get to the main point is that literally ALLL the time he makes plans with his friends but doesnt go through me first. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Quite the contrary, she's sort of just let her son float away like a balloon on a cool, cloudless day. All bans in this subreddit are permanent. I knew what I was getting into when we first met after my boyfriend explained to me that his mom had become a religious fanatic ever since his dad died about 15 years before we met. For more information, please see our I'm in a situation where I've been in a committed relationship for 15 years. If he is prepared, you can give him some healthy suggestions on how to make you a priority and his mother someone he speaks with (not over-relies on). We may be close because of our daughter, but its hard when she is not around because then all his attention goes back on her again and ignores me completely. She doesnt realize that shes trying to fill the hole in her life and feel needed and important. Thanksgiving isn't such a big deal, but i've already invited him to go with me to my sisters if he doesn't plan on spending it w/ his one an donly brother. & makes me feel that we need time together more than ever. Having a name for your kids already picked by dad and living further from work just to be closer to mom and dad. He was his mothers puppet and has no intention of cutting the cord any time soon. Sit down with him and let him it cant continue. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Shed do something he isnt prepared for and hurt him badly. Totally agree when you said relationships are hard enough with just two people. October 11, 2022 by Zan. In your case, shes focusing on your boyfriend. She thinks I hate her because I am not spending it with her? or situations/content involving minors. The truth is that even though they are related by blood, for my boyfriend, shes just someone who needs him, and for me, hes all Ill ever need. She is not alone in this, and neither am I.. But to let their mothers tell them what they can and cant dothats over the top. or situations/content involving minors. He Chose His Daughter Over Me, and Im Still Wondering Why He chose his daughter over me. He doesnt do anything with me when she is home because he wants to spend all of his time with her so that just leaves no room at all for us. Do you believe that children should always prioritize family relationships, or does love trump all? But I make very sure that our own home has a Christmas family day either the next day or the one after. N2ZjNWZjNjI3NWE1ZDE5MjE1MGJiMGI2MGMyYTE2MWE1NGUyMGFiZjllMjUw You can't expect people - even your own boyfriend or husband to protect you from external influences. You shouldnt stay with someone whose life revolves around his mother. Think he's perfect for me, love everything about him. YjMyNjdmYjM0ZjM1M2FjZGY3ZTBhZDM0ODU2YzExMDQzYmNmOTMzMmIyMzE2 His mother was in charge of things and sadly still is. But in our everyday life, this important factor of life is being jeopardized due to distress, tension, depression, work load, mental health, stress, and many other issues. My boyfriend spend the weekend with his ex. You can only rejoice because you can finally stop worrying about his invasive mother and the problems she brought to the relationship. We are pretty serious. Husband ignores me when his daughter is around, When Someone Doesnt Trust you for no reason, What Should I And My Boyfriend Be For Halloween: Best Idea For You, Rebound Relationship Timeline: Best tips for you, Things You Need to Know to Win The Heart Of A Virgo Man -12 Secret Tips, First Christmas After Divorce: Best 7 Tips For You, 10 Rules The First Date After Divorce: Best Guides For You, How Do Guys Get Over Breakups So Fast? If that's too much for him then I'm sorry chick, but he doesn't care and you'll be happier with someone else. At the end of the day he will choose his children over you if you kick off or refuse to speak to them. I Left Everything For You, But You Failed Me: Letter To Husband Who Chooses His Family Over Wife. His family should be making room for you in their lives. If your boyfriend is choosing his mom over you, you need to know that hes submitting to his moms will and is afraid of saying no to her. NDg3YTE5NmU0MTAwMDc3OGU0OGFmYmNmYWFkZmViYjUwNWRhZjcxMzM3MGUx By PopSugar Written on May 23, 2022. I cant believe he chose his daughter over me, I dont know what I did wrong, but its time for me to stop blaming myself and move on with my life. What do I do? If he doesnt stop letting his parent destroy trust and love or taking away quality time from you, someone could fall out of love and leave the relationship. Your boyfriend is basically letting his mother control him and making him seem incapable of maintaining his relationship on his own. Uhh they already made plans for just the two of them?? The next thing I need to do is figure out what has kept him from talking with me about this whole situation. What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, or situations involving minors and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). I absolutely dread the holidays now. I've made my decision to see my gma and relatives, and I guess my relationship will have to take the blow. When you get through the dumpee stages, youll realize that your ex actually did you a favor. Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. Maybe for your bf also. It's a long-distance relationship, but we've made it work. What billybill is saying. NDUxZjNhMGZjYzNjMDcwNWRiYWM3Y2ExNmQ5MjhkM2QwODMzNjAzYmE4NDc0 The only reason he'll stay at his mom's place is that he's still close with his stepdad and sister. It hurts so much . I can't picture how awkward that household is. Thank you for this article Zan! So much so that I've never even met her, nor am I allowed on her property (which is actually no issue for me I'm OK with staying far away from her, believe it or not). Rotate, take turns, whatever.but partner should be compromising to try and spend a holiday with you once in a while. Sounds like an enmeshed family, and I know because I came from one. relationship because of this. Why does my boyfriend ignore me when he has his kids? The only thing seperating us are the miles between our homes. Independence. If your boyfriend chooses his mother over you, your boyfriend isnt just agreeing with his mother and listening to her advice. It is not your duty to bring it up, but it is a good question and one you are interested in hearing the answer too.. It's give and take. ZWRmNGZjODBmNTBkYmJlOGQ5NWI5ZWJmNGQ0NDVhMGVkODlhYTZiNDVjN2M0 Deep inside, she probably knows shes being controlling and overprotective. Every decision he makes has to be approved by his family. Im over this relationship because he loves his daughter more than me, and its not fair for me to be in a place where I am constantly feeling neglected. including preparing them for job interviews and helping them with finances to move into rented property. Partying was more important than being a wife and mom. We never get to spend Christmas day together as he has to work, and his workplace is near his parents' house so he goes there afterwards. Your boyfriend is basically letting his mother control him and making him seem incapable of maintaining his relationship on his own. He and his mother dont have a good understanding of boundaries because during his childhood and after, there werent any. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. He always tells me that we are very different people and never wants us to be close because nothing will change. YjRhMDg2ZmE4MDZkZmQzNzc3YmZiMmFiMTUwZjBhM2I5MjY1NDZkZGU4Zjg1 Ashley Paige is a former Assistant Editor for PopSugar Love and Smart Living. Over christmas i made a big mistake my wife and me went to v GF needed to work on herself but misses me and wanted to spend time together. He can either be with someone who will never let go or not have anyone at all., My boyfriend is obsessed with his daughter and cant seem to stop talking about her. Privacy Policy. Ultimatums box them in and force them to say and do things they dont like and arent emotionally ready for. Men, generally, promise to be there for their wives, to never leave them alone, to be their protector, and what not. Unfortunately there is a very slim chance you will change this. Sometimes it can feel like you are the one responsible for this behavior. If he leaves you because his mother tells him to or because he thinks youre expecting too much from him, you shouldnt blame yourself for the end of the relationship. As difficult as it may be, try to remind yourself that your ex left because he wasnt willing to understand you and compromise. We were so in love, but he chose his daughter over me. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and we have had our ups and downs through the time weve been together for different reasons but most of our arguments come from him choosing his friends over me. It will create new ones. And it's not just buying a house. YjY5OTdmZjFiZWNmZjA2MDU4OGU2NzZkYWJkYjlkZjQ1ZTcyNjg5ZTAyZDIy Boyfriend will not introduce me to family or tell his ex-wife he's dating, Friends with benefits didn't want to spend the night. There are some men that have been so programmed to "choose" their mother that even when they get married the wife does not end up in first place. Need help with your relationship? You have to compromise in any relationship. Before he and his family ruins your life. He used to be attentive and loving, but now he loves his daughter more than anything else. Its time to take care of my needs and think about myself. Honest Conversation With Him If your boyfriend constantly prioritizes his family over you, it can be tough to feel like you're a priority in his life. M2MwMDY4NmMxNTcyNWNkZGZmYmQ3ZTM4NTE0OGM2MGQ2YzdiYWE2ZjZlMjA4 Is that weird? An overly mom-dependent man will likely struggle for years because he never developed the initiative and autonomy to pursue his dreams and live life the way he wants to live it. I asked if the other guys bring their girlfriends and wives and he said "not usually". She's being selfish. Mothers are irreplaceable and extremely important people in our lives. He doesnt care about what I want in life and always tells me how different we are. Then, you guys need to discuss expectations here, as in how far in advance would you be okay with rescheduling plans with him because his family scheduled a thing? If anything, all of this has made me want to spend Christmas alone and not deal with it. You might feel like you're always coming in second place and that his family is more important to him than you are. Can finally stop worrying about his family and I just had to choose between his mom and me to inside! 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